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Saturday, June 27, 2015

Happy Anniversary Sweetheart

Happy 34th Anniversary!

Happy Anniversary Sweetheart! Six great kids, eight wonderful grand-kids, thirty-four awesome years, and a bright eternity to continue the celebration! Now that's priceless! Love you, always and forever Natalie Jane!
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When I was 14 years old, my 8th grade locker partner and best friend died in a tragic drowning accident. For weeks I knelt at my bedside and prayed to understand why? Why would God allow this to happen to such an outstandingly, good, young man?
Immaturely, in my heartbreak and confusion and frustration I vowed to never have a best friend again! As I prayed repeatedly, I expected God to answer this request: "Show me, in my mind's eye, who my future wife will be." Childishly, I reasoned that if I was going to ever have a best friend again, it would only be my wife.
After weeks of tears and heartfelt petitioning, the answer came. With all the love and understanding of a benevolent and caring Father, the answer came. As clear and warm and gentle as any other spoken words could be, He said, "Calvin, I won't show you your wife to be just now, but I will promise you this, when you see her, you'll know that she's the one."
My pain and heartache subsided. There was a renewed confidence and assurance. I knew that God was truly in control of the universe, that I mattered, and that He loved me.
It was more than four years later, the first week in my senior year of high school, sitting in the back row of a mechanical drafting class. The events of those four years earlier were a distant and mostly-faded memory. There were only two girls in that class. As I was assessing their 'potential', I focused in on one. And then it happened. That old, but unforgettable voice spoke a second time.
Again gently and lovingly, He said, "Do you remember when I told you that when you saw her you'd know her?" Oh my!!! I'd almost forgotten it... almost, but not quite. "You're seeing her now."
There's much more to this Romeo and Juliet love story... but about two-and-a-half years later, 34 years ago today, June 27, 1981, we were married for time and eternity. Always and Forever! Calvin loves Natalie! Cinelli loves Jane! Happy, happy anniversary!!! You're amazing!  

— Celebrating our 34th anniversary. 7/27/2015


Friday, June 26, 2015

THE PROS AND CONS OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

THE PROS AND CONS OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

I had an “aha moment” the other day! It’s probably something that every other human being on the planet already understood... So, I’m just a little slower than most.

I’m still trying to get my brain fully around it, but as far as I can appreciate it at this point, it seems that almost all that’s good in life, and almost all that’s difficult in life is intrinsically and interdependently related to our relationships with each other. Relationships with our families, our neighbors and friends, work colleagues and church family – all of our interpersonal associations.

It may seem trite, but it’s true – it turns out that in life, relationships are everything!

And, like it or not, we need these relationships with each other. And equally important, we need both sides of these relationships – the good and the not so good. Tell me if this holds water…

Relationships are complicated. They can be the source of feelings of ecstasy – the “I’m on the top of the world and nothing can stop me!” and they can be the source of unbearable pain – the gall of bitterness and “I just wish it would all end.” In this life, most people have the privilege of experiencing thousands of stops along the infinite spectrum of emotions found on the vast highway of human relations. What a blessing the reality of this epic realization!

In relationships, the good comes with the bad. It’s a given – maybe even a universal law of nature. With all relationships there’s a wonderful intermingling of opposites, a magical blend of both joy and drama, love and pain, excitement and boredom, comfort and anger, inspiration and frustration. It’s both encouragement and discouragement, kindness and meanness, dreams and nightmares, compassion and cruelty, hope and despair. It’s a mixture of laughter and tears, compromises and disagreements, truths and untruths, heaven and hell, successes and failures. It’s a blend of sanity and craziness, grace and thoughtlessness, intimacy and conflict, triumph and tragedy, health and sickness. It’s both ups and downs, both sweet and sour – it’s the ease and the complication of a million times a million emotional aspects of fragile, unique human relationships. It’s life! It’s the fabric of what life is made of!

Achieving and maintaining good relationships takes real effort. It’s hard work. It requires continuous, meaningful attention from both parties. We need to work on them all the time. Because, when neglected, relationships suffer. They don’t improve or repair themselves. Relationships, left unnourished, like all things in mortality, fall under the unforgiving umbrella of the Second Law of Thermodynamics – ‘entropy’. They disintegrate, they decay, become disorganized. Some might even say, they rot!

The good news… there’s a ‘glass half full’ side of every characteristic and every relationship! The value and proportion of every emotion can not only be learned and enhanced, but also strengthened or minimized for the better. It’s a lifelong process of self-awareness; of self-improvement and being conscious of those around us and the impact of our words, choices and actions on them (and on ourselves). It’s a process of learning from our own mistakes and successes – as well as learning from the errors and accomplishments of others. It’s a process that requires patience and forgiveness, faith and temperance, and the tenacity to press ever onward, ever upward.

The beauty of it all is one of the grandest gifts that God has given to mankind. The ability, really the opportunity to create something of immeasurable value – something that transcends both time and space. The prospect of consequential improvement, of perpetual growth, toward an eventual brushing-up against the qualities of Godlike conduct.

Relationships can be both wonderfully rewarding and extremely challenging. But the heart of the matter is that God has given us the ability to make something of infinite worth and of eternal providence out of every aspect of every relationship. It is a significant part of the test of mortality – a part that will help  us hone our characters as we work on applying the admonition of the Savior, the Master of relationships, when He taught His followers from the Sermon on the Mount: “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father in Heaven is perfect” (Matt. 5:48).

May our relationships be treated with great importance, and may they prosper, producing fountains of perpetual joy!
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Wm. Calvin Hughes  |  Lake Elsinore, California  |  June 25, 2015

Happy Birthday Mom, Grandma Marks and Baby Kado!


Thursday, June 11, 2015

Pain and the Glory of God



Pain and the Glory of God
Pain is not relative. It hurts. Hurting is not relative. It is not exclusive, it’s more of an ‘equal opportunity offender’. Neither age, nor beauty, nor nationality, race, heritage nor religion can deter its course. You can’t get out of its path. Everybody gets some. And one person’s capacity or experience for pain has absolutely no relation to someone else’s. They are absolutely incomparable. And there is no amount of money in the world, no amount of privilege that can make you exempt. When it chooses you, you’re suddenly thrust into a club that you didn’t ask to join. You’re shipped off to a violent and brutal war, even though you never enlisted. But you look resolutely into the face of this raging storm, you grit your teeth, and you fearlessly exclaim, “Do your best!” You pick yourself up, put on your armor, and know that if you’re lucky, you’ll discover new and amazing sides of yourself – like a will you never knew you had, and strength and fortitude that somehow had been elusive and hibernating in unchartered territory. And there’s an upside! You’ll have a unique opportunity to experience God’s goodness, to see first-hand His Glory in action, and feel His limitless love for you as an individual and His concern for your one-of-a-kind circumstance. There’s even more upside. You’ll get to see new and beautiful sides of both strangers and the people who matter the most to you in the world. They’ll wrap you in their love and lend you their strength when yours is depleting or fleeting. And then, at some point, you accept your fate and you’ll fight – you fight with everything you have – your last dollar, your last ounce of strength, your last drop of will-power, your last breath! Because, really, what other choice do you have? What other choice is there? But even in tragic pain, in imperceptible hurt, there is a silver lining – it’s the miracle of life! As dark and cold and lonely the long night is, the sun will still come up in the morning. There’s got to be a morning after. Hang in there and cling to that wellspring of hope in a better tomorrow. And regardless of all the naysayers, tomorrow will come! It always does! See you in the morning my friend! It will be a very, very good, sun shiny day!


Wm. Calvin Hughes | Lake Elsinore, California | June 11, 2015

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

The Garden of Pain


Every human being on this earth knows that life is not without pain or trials. For most of us these conditions are an inconvenience, trials to be endured, or if possible, avoided. But there are a select few who when faced with bleak and cruel and unfair ordeals, refuse to complain – but rather use them as tools to create something so beautiful that it transcends this world and makes them exceptional human beings. They have the foresight to see the grandness of a flourishing garden, even as the soil is tilled and the seeds are sown. From a rocky and barren field they can envision beautiful flowers, velvety grass, fruit-laden orchards, hardy shrubs, a cool flowing brook and a sturdy majestic forest. It takes uncommon faith, resolute perseverance and uncompromising trust that God not only has our best interest at heart, but knows which trials and what pains will uniquely bless us individually and help us become who He wants us to become - the best us we can possibly ever become in preparation to someday live with Him in His Kingdom, in the splendor of His glorious, infinite and eternal garden.
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Wm. Calvin Hughes
Lake Elsinore. California
April 22, 2015

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Finding The Power to Improve


Regardless of our status in life, our goodness or our faults, our spirituality or temporal-mindedness, our background or upbringing or our history, every aspect of our character - from one end of the spectrum to the other - every aspect (good and bad) can be improved and every mistake can be reconciled. These positive changes ebb and flow differently and at various momentums by individual realization and by circumstance. But fortuitously, some things remain constant - 1) We are not left to make this progress alone. We are never alone. And 2) We have unlimited access to heavenly powers that will sustain us, encourage us, and guide us in the right direction - back to our heavenly home. These divine powers are available to all who will humbly accept these heavenly gifts. 

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Wm Calvin Hughes
Lake Elsinore, California
April 13, 2015

Sunday, April 12, 2015

The Plan of Salvation = The Plan of Happiness




Wherever you are in life... whatever your beliefs... It is such a comforting and reassuring and peaceful feeling to know that God is in control and that He has a plan. That His plan involved His Son - a Savior and Redeemer to atone for our sins and conquer death. That His plan has a mission statement - "To bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man." And that the prime objective of His plan is our happiness! 

Knowing about His plan changes everything! It gives us an eternal perspective. It gives us hope and faith. It gives us perspective to properly view the challenges of life as blessings from a loving God allowing us to learn patience and faith, tolerance and resilience, endurance, compassion, gratefulness and love. It allows us to look directly into the face of the worst of the storms of life and say, "Do your best!" It can give us a measure of the fortitude of Job, when in the midst of horrendous trials and loss, he responded with uncommon conviction, "Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” Amazingly, “in all this Job sinned not, nor charged God foolishly.”

Oh, how wonderful it is that God has a plan!
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Wm. Calvin Hughes
Lake Elsinore, CA
April 12, 2015

Monday, February 16, 2015

Former Missionary Asks Forgiveness from Texas Town


Former Missionary Asks Forgiveness from Texas Town
By Jason F. Wright , For the Deseret News, Published: Wednesday, Feb. 11,  2015

The brick Kim Roberts took as a souvenir in 1973 from the town of Denison, Texas. (Robert Hanna)

Dr. Kim Roberts of Salt Lake City and Robert Hanna of Denison, Texas, have never met. They’ve never chatted on the phone nor exchanged an email.

Instead, they’re linked by two letters and bonded by a brick.

In 1973, Roberts was serving as a full-time missionary for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the Texas North Mission. Because the mission had enjoyed an influx of newer missionaries, then-Elder Roberts and his companion were asked to travel the mission and provide some hands-on training. Six months before the end of Roberts' mission, their travels took them to Denison, a small city 75 miles north of Dallas.

Roberts remembers one afternoon, while working alongside the missionaries assigned to Denison, noticing something unusual about the red bricks in the sidewalk near the house they temporarily called home. Some of the standard-sized bricks were stamped with the words, “Don’t Spit on Sidewalk.”

Roberts eyed a few unstamped bricks loose on the edge of the road and decided it was time to take a souvenir. He and his companion carefully pried a couple of bricks loose from the sidewalk and replaced them with plain ones. He later learned that the unusual bricks had been laid at the turn of the century as a reminder to citizens of the tumbleweed town that they could reduce the spread of tuberculosis by not spitting on the ground.

Roberts wrapped up his brick and placed it in his suitcase. It then traveled with him over his remaining days in Texas, and eventually, on a plane to his family’s home in Seattle.

He was proud of his unique souvenir and took care of it. He painted the stamped letters white to help them stand out and coated the brick in lacquer. It was a fantastic conversation starter and a sweet memory of his service in Texas.

But as the years passed, the brick became heavier and heavier. In a recent interview, Roberts described his change of heart.

“As time went on, it hit me (that) I’d stolen something. But I didn’t steal an object. I’d stolen a part of history from this town.”

The feelings became stronger during the '80s and '90s and for eight years he whispered these words every time he saw the brick. “I should really send that back.”

One Sunday in church, during a lesson on honesty, he knew he couldn’t wait any longer. Like all of us, Roberts confides there are several things in his life he cannot completely correct.

“So, I guess I finally realized I should rectify what I can," he said. "We all do things, and at the time, we think they’re humorous or not harmful to anyone. But as we mature, we grow in understanding and see that some of our past actions haven’t been that noble. So we repent, make it right, do all we can and the Atonement takes over.”

With those words on his mind, Roberts finally wrapped the brick back up and with the help of the Internet, found an address for the city offices of Denison, Texas. But sending a 110-year-old bubble-wrapped brick by itself wasn’t enough. Roberts needed to write a letter, and the letter needed to ask for forgiveness.

To Whom It May Concern:

This may seem like an odd letter accompanying an old package. Let me explain. Forty years ago I had the privilege of serving in the state of Texas as a missionary for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I spent a few days in Denison and was fascinated with the many neatly paved sidewalks featuring the “Don't Spit on Sidewalk” logo. I determined that I needed one as a souvenir and helped myself to one, not thinking that my actions were a complete contradiction of who and what I represented. Over the years I have had occasional pangs of guilt, but while sitting in church this past Sunday and listening to a lesson on honesty I determined that now is the time to return the brick to its rightful owners. I do so with my full apologies for showing disrespect to the good people of Denison. I ask your forgiveness. I realize that the brick most likely cannot be returned to the previous place in the sidewalk in front of the house where I was staying at the time in 1973 (I don’t recall the address), but perhaps by placing it in a conspicuous place in your offices it will be a reminder that, in the end, honesty is the best policy. Thank you.

Kim G. Roberts

Some 1,200 miles away in Denison, city manager Robert Hanna was toiling away at another day. Not only was Hanna not in Texas in 1973 when the brick was stolen, he wasn’t even in his parents’ plans yet. Plus, the remaining “Don’t Spit on Sidewalk” bricks were long gone from Denison’s sidewalks and streets.

He’ll never forget the day the heavy box arrived.

“Mr. Hanna,” Cheryl Green called from her desk outside his office. “You need to come see this.” The brick was so well wrapped and packaged, Hanna said it wouldn’t have just survived a drop from a mail truck; one could have run it over.

The brick and letter stunned him. “In my world, this never happens,” Hanna explained. “This is a one in a million thing. We have street signs, stop signs, you name it, stolen all the time. Nothing comes back.”

Hanna could not stop thinking about the gesture from the former LDS missionary. “I think God uses people like this. And it speaks to this man’s character. It was such a trivial thing. But to carry that around,” Hanna hesitated a moment before adding a simple and subtle, “Wow.”

Though not a Mormon himself, Hanna had been reading the Book of Mormon at the time. “God uses people to send messages,” he said, and he knew the message Roberts needed to hear.

Ten days later, he sat at his desk and penned a letter on Denison City letterhead.

Dear Dr. Roberts,

Is it not written in 2 Nephi 25:26, "And we talk of Christ, we rejoice in Christ, we preach of Christ, we prophesy of Christ, and we write according to our prophecies, that our children may know to what source they may look for a remission of their sins?”

Be at peace with yourself and your actions. By taking what wasn't yours, you preserved a piece of Denison history that the city did not see fit to preserve many years ago. Thanks to you and your actions, we can hold a piece of our community’s history once again and display it with pride. Behold! God “worketh all things after the counsel of his own will” (Ephesians 1:11).

May the Lord bless you in all things and grant you peace.

Sincerely, Robert Hanna

Back in Utah, Roberts was touched by the kind letter and filled with the peace he'd longed for. To him, it wasn't just about a brick. It was about the pure principle of forgiveness.
When both humble men were asked what they hope people will remember about their inspiring story, their answers were nearly identical. It’s never too late to give up the bricks in our lives. And our loads become so much lighter when the bricks are back where they belong.

Even if it’s on a shelf in a small Texas town called Denison.
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Jason Wright is a New York Times best-selling author of 10 books, including "Christmas Jars" and "The Wednesday Letters." email at jwright@deseretnews.com.